My sex doesn’t determine my capability

Certain statuses are “ascribed” to the individual before knowing her/his potentialities. These “determine and limit the range of statuses” which s/he may subsequently achieve. One of these is an individual’s sex, which is of course, a highly visible physiological fact.

It is wrong to assume that the female-male division of statuses is based on inherent traits alone. Further,  the social differences change from one society to the other. For example :-

1. Among the Chambri People  women are the bread-earners whereas men look after household work and spend time in combing hair, wearing different kinds of beads and other kinds of beautification.

2. Among the Mundugumor Tribe – women and men are equally aggressive.

3. Among the Trobriand Islanders – except for breast-feeding, all the other tasks of child nursing are done by the father.

In some tribes, the father gives training to the son in dancing. These differences can not be attributed to biological attributes.

In reality, the assignment of ‘female status’ to women is mainly due to their ‘child-bearing function’. They carry the parasitic embryo in their body for a long time and nurse it when it comes out of the womb. They are thus provided with the tasks that are compatible with this function. For this reason, in most societies, female work is more uniform and localised than that of men. It means for women, their ascribed statuses limit their attainment for achieved statuses.

By means of this blog, I do not intend to justify these limitations on women, but rather to REFUTE them. As Ayn Rand said :

” The question isn’t who’s going to let me; it’s who is going to stop me”.
We need to stop feeling that we are controlled by someone and start believing that we can make our own decisions and do what we want ! Turn your can’ts to cans and dreams to plans !Reference: C.N Shankar Rao Sociology (6th Edition)


I’ve got the power !!

I just got into a little clash with someone I love dearly. What happens with us always is that, when I get upset about something related to us, he instead of trying to mend it, either simply ignores it or himself gets angry in return. As a result, it only gets worse.  

So, most of the times I try and get over it myself. But, instead of even acknowledging that, today, he asked me to prioritize his situation over my anger. Trust me, I  do that all the time. but clearly, it hasn’t been to any avail. Suppressing my anger.

I mean, why am I even supposed to  do that ?? ..because I am a girl ?? and am supposed to take it all quietly ? .. Do I not have the right to get upset and be cheered up by someone ?? .. Am I to consider myself so lowly ? 

NO, is the answer.



Often we find Indian men of a certain class proudly proclaiming that ‘sharam’ is what distinguishes ‘their’ Indian women from any women in this world, i.e ‘Sharam aurat ka gehna hai’ (Shyness is like the jewelry that beautifies a woman).

I laid emphasis on ‘their’ in the first line because of the sense of possession  that these men need to have (again) on ‘their’ women. Manusmriti preaches that ‘Women and cattle should be treated alike’. But hey, our ancestors were smart enough not to take this too literally. The women were made to feel good about it ! 

Their movement was checked with anklets, their hands tied down with bangles, their noses and ears pierced just like those of the cattle (There’s a belief that piercing certain points in the body helps to keep the person in control). Their necks burdened with necklaces, with vermilion or bindi on the foreheads to brand them married, and the head (sometimes face too) covered with their saree. Then, they were told that they look beautiful. 

Thought of as dumb as the cattle, they were trained just like it too. Trained to follow the orders, to never object to anything, to simply keep enduring if any harm was caused to her. Then, she was appreciated for being obedient and docile.

Never taught any vocation to earn her own livelihood, she was made to be dependent on men. Quoting Manu again, “In childhood a female must be subject to her father, in youth to her husband, and when her lord is dead, to her sons; a woman must never be independent.”

In addition, if the father didn’t marry off her daughter before puberty, it was believed that he committed a sin with her (Disgusted?). So, the chain goes like this, first, child marriage, simultaneously of course the dowry, then early unhealthy pregnancies, with concurrent and unending harassment at the matrimonial home, which is aggravated if she doesn’t give birth to a boy and in case the husband dies, she’s blamed for bringing bad luck and discarded by the society. 

Shockingly, this mentality and this mindset still exists in the modern Indian society. Forget about the rural areas, even urban areas are plagued by it. As Dr. Ambedkar rightly remarked, ” No civilized society of today presents more survivals of primitive times than does the Indian society.” 

Unfortunately, the positive aspects of our primitive times are eroding fast, while the negative ones seem to be undying ! It’s time for the Indian women to give up their shyness and rise to the occasion. Sharam humara gehna nahi, humari bediyan hain, inhe tod daalna hai !(Shyness is not our jewelry, it’s the shackles that we must breakthrough)